Please give me space lanyard

Please give me space lanyard supports people to socially distance

Please give me space is a new initiative from the makers of the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower lanyard scheme. It is designed to support people with non-visible disabilities, such as dementia, to socially distance during the coronavirus pandemic.

Many people with dementia still live in the community and for them, coronavirus has brought new challenges. When out shopping and visiting public spaces the rules or precautions around social distancing can be particularly challenging.

For this reason, the makers of the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower lanyard have started a new awareness scheme for anyone with a hidden disability, like dementia.

What is the Please give me space lanyard?

The Please give me space lanyard is designed to alert members of the public that they need to keep their distance, as the wearer has difficulty maintaining social distance.

Wearing or showing the symbol in public, can also defuse difficult situations, without the need for complex explanations.

During coronavirus, people can get quite upset if distancing is not maintained. This has resulted in people with hidden disabilities, including dementia, being verbally abused or aggressively confronted for not maintaining a safe social distance.

An older woman wearing a Please give me space lanyard

A person wearing Please give me space might have dementia and need support to observe social distance guidelines

Peter's story

We spoke to Alzheimer’s Society Ambassador Peter Middleton, who is living with dementia, about the way he uses his Sunflower lanyard and asked him why he felt the Please give me space scheme would be helpful during the pandemic.

‘I don't always see and understand the signals that other people react to.’ says Peter.

'I may inadvertently break social distancing rules and appear to be rude. The new rules can be very daunting and trying to conform to them is a great pressure and causes anxiety.

'My lanyard gives me more confidence as it broadcasts to people that I am prone to make mistakes and allows them to be more understanding. I don't wear my lanyard every time I go out, but I always have it in my pocket in case I get into a situation where I feel vulnerable.'

Peter recorded himself for a month to show the ups and downs of living with dementia. Watch a short video on YouTube to find out more about his experiences.

Peter Middleton wearing a Please give me space lanyard

Peter wearing a new Please give me space lanyard

Should I wear a Please give me space lanyard?

The Hidden Disabilities Sunflower and Please give me space lanyard schemes allow people with dementia and other hidden disabilities to easily communicate their issues in public situations if they choose to do that.

Some people with dementia prefer not to outwardly display their status. They may choose a more discreet way to let others know about their diagnosis while out and about, such as our free helpcards. 

Some people are concerned that displaying their status may make them vulnerable in particular environments. Others may find the Sunflower and Please give me space helpful tools in their day-to-day lives. 

It’s a matter of choice for the person with dementia. Sometimes friends or family might think it would be a good idea for the person to wear a lanyard but they should be supported to decide for themselves. If they can’t then they should still be involved as much as possible and friends and family should think about what’s best for that person.

Find out more

Visit the Please give me space website (www.pleasegivemespace.uk) and read Peter’s excellent blog (www.livingwithdementia.online).

Visit the website Read Peter's blog

4 comments

This new lanyard is a good idea to help with social distancing.
Having discovered that some wearers of the Hidden Disabilities lanyard do so to avoid wearing a face mask even though they have no disability or not one that excuses a face mask, they are discredited in my view. This is even though my husband sometimes wears one and I qualify myself (we both wear face masks when required).

i have the first sings of Alzheimer'sas my dad is a care home

I think every one with dementia should wear one of these

My dad wouldn’t wear one as he doesn’t realise he has dementia and would get upset if I asked him to. As his carer I think something I could wear or display to alert other people to his condition would be very useful though