Moving decisions: Getting the support you need on Talking Point

Agreeing that a person with dementia needs to move into a care home is something that many people describe as the most difficult decision they’ve ever had to make. This is especially common when the person is your partner, but it can be just as true in other situations too. 

Even when all the facts are telling you that it’s the right thing to do, it’s normal for this to be a highly emotional time. You might have feelings of guilt or of letting the person down in some way. When you’ve been sharing your life or a home with them, you may also feel a sense of loss. 

Fearing other people’s judgement could discourage you from talking about your feelings. People often end up feeling that they have to cope with everything on their own.

No judgement 

Sharing what’s happening and how you feel on Talking Point, our online community, can help you come to terms with this decision, secure in the knowledge that no one will judge you. 

Many community members will be going through similar situations, or will have in the past. Knowing that they understand what you’re dealing with can be comforting in itself. 

They may offer practical suggestions before, during and after the move, as well as simply being there for you through a difficult time. 

Safe and supportive 

Talking Point provides a safe and supportive place where you can share how you’re feeling and find out how other people have managed. If you sign up as a member and want to discuss something more private, you can also take part in the ‘dealing with difficult feelings’ forum. Here, your posts can only be seen by other Talking Point members. 

Being able to share experiences, advice and feelings with people who have a good idea about what you’re facing won’t make all your problems disappear. However, it can make a massive difference by helping you to feel less alone and better able to cope.