Real stories

How my grandparents inspired my career in dementia care

My journey in dementia care started when I started working as a housekeeper in a dementia care home in 2019.

At the time I was studying psychology and I thought working there would go hand in hand with my studies. 

I’ve always had a passion for helping others and their mental health.

Learning about dementia

I didn’t know much about dementia before this first job.

I thought it was just about memory problems, only affected older people and that it was an inevitability of ageing, which I now know are all myths.

I learned so much and, over time, I started to think about the ways I could help residents with dementia.

It became clear to me that this was more than just a job – it was my calling.

Coping with dementia changes in loved ones

Having lost two grandparents to dementia, I understand on a deeply emotional level how difficult it can be to watch loved ones change in ways that are out of our control.

Starting at the care home coincided with my nan being diagnosed.

Having this experience affected my work life.

I saw things from not just the perspective of the person with dementia, but how it can affect their family and those around them.

I used what I learned in my job to help my nan too.

We tried robotic pet therapy at work and I managed to get a robotic dog for my nan, as she used to have a Westie. It was a great way to build a connection with her and we saw her regain a sense of purpose from it.

When I’m caring for our residents and speaking to their families or friends, I often think about my nan. 

If it wouldn’t be good enough for her, then it’s not good enough for anyone.

Creating a caring environment

The smallest of gestures can make a big impact for a person with dementia, even if it’s just a smile or a hug, remembering their favourite song and how they like their tea.

It’s important to recognise the person behind the dementia. 

I always say you can’t bring them into our world, we have to go into theirs.

Everyone has a rich, meaningful life that deserves recognition.

I’ve worked my way up to my current role as Care Needs Coordinator and Dementia Lead at Haviland House in Worthing.

This job involves care planning for the residents, as well as training staff. I want to foster a compassionate environment, that’s my guiding principle.

Person-centred dementia care

I want to use my platform to raise awareness of dementia and contribute to change in the way we approach dementia care.

Sometimes dementia care can be clinical and task orientated.

I’d like to see a balance of emotional and psychological support, and for all health professionals to receive training in person-centred care.

What drives me every day is knowing that I’m helping people maintain their dignity, quality of life and autonomy, even as they face challenges.

This job has had a profound impact on me personally.

It has given me a greater sense of empathy, understanding and purpose.

My work has also helped me process my own feelings of loss and grief from losing my grandparents. 

There’s solace in knowing, even in the most difficult moments, that I’m part of a team helping people going through similar struggles.