My wife Penny was a fun loving 67 year old beauty who loved going on holidays, which we did 5-6 times a year. COVID came and when the second vaccination was done she had the Astra Zeneca one, I had Pfizer. 4 days after this I found her screaming on the floor in our kitchen, holding her head. I called the ambulance and she went into hospital for a day. When she came home she was a different person. she didnt know how to turn the cooker on, and this progressed to other things like where she had put things. after attacking me twice we decided a placing in Uckfield hospital ( a specialist unit )was best. now three years later in a care home in Eastbourne she is happy to see me twice a week. I miss her so much.

My unbelievable Dad passed away. It would have been a different passing had he not had dementia . We would have sat,laughed and said things to each other when we knew the time was coming .That was robbed from me by this cruel disease. My heart goes out to all of you going through what I went through. Bless you and keep strong

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I always go in the garden in the morning to have my coffee and look up at the sky and talk to him. NEVER LET THEM BE FORGOTTEN XXXX

My mum, Mavis, was a strong, intelligent, funny and fierce lady – always full of life, always making things (food, knitting) or busy reading, or doing crosswords or sudoku.
She was diagnosed just before COVID hit, but in reality, she had been struggling for much longer. We as a family had all seen it, but she refused to acknowledge it and masked very effectively when she was in company. Her reality when she was alone, was that she had started drinking to cope with feeling so terrible and her life was in chaos. I felt (and still feel) a tremendous weight of guilt, that I didn’t force the issue and get her help at an earlier stage.
After her diagnosis, she managed at home with support for a few years, but with each passing day, a little more of the light inside her left. She stopped doing things for herself, stopped all the things she loved. Her conversations became one word answers in response to questions, and eventually she began to forget that she’d lost loved ones (my dad, my nan) and would become distressed, wanting to leave to find them.
2 years ago, I was forced to make the decision to move her into care. The first 6 months were unbearable. Her home had been her whole life; leaving that took a major toll on her and she deteriorated significantly. I blamed myself for putting her in that position and for the way she felt.
She is more settled now but that period left its mark on both of us. A lot more of her disappeared – her fight, her soul. I have had to learn that although she will always be my mum, every time I see her she will be a little bit of a changed version of my mum from the last time I was there. She still remembers me (for now – although sometimes she thinks I’m her sister), but I know there will come a day when that is gone too, along with all of her memories of our life together. I will have to hold on to them for the both of us.

My mum had Alzheimer’s for 11 years, where we lost a bit more of her each day.
It is such a cruel disease and she really didn’t deserve this after everything she went through.
She lost her mum at two years and had three siblings and even though she wasn’t the oldest she took it upon herself to have days off school at 8 yrs old to do the washing and care for all her siblings, by cooking cleaning and everything else that was required.
They constantly got put into care but used to escape and run back to their dad.
When she married ,her two brothers moved in with her as her dad died had just died at 52!
She then went on to have three children
So there was 7 of them in small three bedroom terraced home.
Mum juggled three jobs aswell, we were always fed, clean, our house was absolutely spotless.
I remember her telling me that they had to share one pair of shoes .
Mum was very strict (she was quite scary) and extremely houseproud every day the house was cleaned even though she was also riddled with arthritis.
We all had to help.
It was heartbreaking to watch her suffer and for me to loose her, she was unrecognisable from the proud well turned out lady that I knew and loved.
Watching her starve to death, my sister and i had two weeks with her sleeping at Richmond care home where without exception the staff were truly incredible, they loved Sylvie and her warped sense of humour.
Unfortunately she passed the day before Mother’s Day when I wasn’t in the room for which I will always be sad, but as the Carer said she was a difficult woman and would never have passed with you there ,.
when she phoned me on Mother’s Day to say about mum passing she said Mum had given a smile then took her last breathe.
I am now doing the Alzheimer’s 31 mile walk in May and want to raise £250 (hopefully I will smash this target !)
It will be hard as I suffer terribly with osteoarthritis but unlike mum I moan constantly with the chronic illness.
So I have my deep heat ,knee straps,
Water, comfy shoes, my doggo and co codomol.

WISH ME LUCK 🍀

We recently lost our beautiful mam Pat, to this cruel disease, but we refuse to allow it to define who she really was.
Mam was a beautiful baker and cook, she was the kindest soul and a lifelong supporter of the Donkey Sanctuary....we took her to visit her beloved donkeys!
She loved days out and going for coffee and cake, dancing around the kitchen to her favourite music and adored Christmas.
We managed to enjoy all of those things with her until the very end.
She is the centre of our family, the essence of love and peace and leaves a legacy of unconditional love.
We will miss her forevermore ❤️ xxxx