Q&A: Liz Brown, who lives with vascular dementia

Liz Brown, a 75-year-old in Worcestershire with vascular dementia, answers our questions.

What’s changed most since your diagnosis?  

Since my diagnosis my life has changed in many ways. Lots of things that I used to do without thinking are now, on the whole, much more difficult.

It is hard to accept that my future is now so unknown.

Liz Brown

What would you take to your desert island? 

I love music – all sorts of music – and poetry, which I love to read and write. I hope I’d have the opportunity to relax and enjoy my favourite things.

To do this, I’d want to take books, paper and pens, but also a radio. It would be impossible to choose between them!

How has Alzheimer’s Society helped you?

Over the last years, it’s been part of the rock that I’ve relied on. I’ve needed help with all kinds of things. I’m blessed with two volunteers – Tracy and Liane.

I miss Tracy taking me out every week, though she phones instead, and Liane has called me every week since the pandemic started.

The Society gives me the help that no one else can, and it has done right from the start.

What song or tune sums up your life so far?

Hero by Mariah Carey. From listening to that, I feel that somewhere inside I have got the strength to carry on.

The song points out that the hero lies in you – it’s good to listen to when things feel hopeless, it’s a very strong song.

What single thing improves your quality of life?

That’s easy – my daughter, who cares and supports me through the good times and, especially, the bad.

We do things together, she makes me laugh and she is my rock. I am very lucky!

If you could go back in time, where would you go?

I’d choose a part of my life – my teenage years. All the starts and new beginnings, solid friendships, time to relax and look forward to the future. Starting out – that for me was a good time.

What is your most treasured possession?

My motorised wheelchair, which helps me maintain some independence and a chance to be part of life.

I call her Bertha, my best friend, and I’ve had her nine years now.

Even with my limitations, she gives me the ability to pop to the shop, go to the park to watch the ducks – gives me a little bit of freedom. 

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I live in an adult community and will see if they can help out. I am visiting with my son and his family right now but live in an adult Community which is almost 2 hrs away. Should I sell my home and get a place near my son or stay were my friends and clubs I belong to
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Hi Gerri,

Making the decision on what to do about housing can be difficult, and it sounds like you'd really benefit from speaking with one of our trained dementia advisers. You can speak to one of our advisers when you call our support line on 0333 150 3456. They will be able to find out more about your situation, and offer specific advice and support to help you.

Read more details about the support line here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line

We hope this helps, Gerri. Please do call our support line.

Alzheimer's Society blog team

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Just found out I have it. Its devastating.

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Gerri,

We're very sorry to hear this - it sounds like you are going through such a difficult time.

Please know that we are here to provide you with support. We'd strongly recommend calling our Dementia Connect support line on 0333 150 3456. You can speak with one of our dementia advisers who will listen to you, and offer support and advice specific to your situation. More information about the support line, including opening times, can be found here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line

You might also find it helpful to get support, information and advice from others who have been, or are going through, similar situations in our online community, Talking Point. You can browse through others' experiences, or create a free account here: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/dementia-talking-point-our-on…

But please do call the support line on 0333 150 3456 for help or when you need someone to talk to, Gerri. You are not alone.

Alzheimer's Society blog team

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