My mother in law had dementia my wife and I cared for her but she unfortunately had a fall and broke her hip in hospital when she passed unfortunately my mum was...
I was the partner to a lovely man for 14 years, I was his carer right till the end. I miss him
Twelve months ago we had the diagnosis that my wife had Dementia, I'd known her short term memory was getting worse for maybe 2 years, but in typical Judy fashion she...
In November 1989 my dad, George, rang me one day and said "Where's Eileen?" I asked if he meant my cousin Eileen and he said "No, my wife Eileen. She went out this...
My friends wife Norma, also my wife's best friend,...
My beautiful loving mum, June, faded day by day and...
For my dearest Sister Jilly, not only a sister but always a support and partner in crimes (when we were younger)! She is an amazing person, always ready to help and...
Margaret Sallis was one of the kindest and happiest...
Our beloved Dad, Father in Law, Grandad and Great Grandad sadly passed away on 23rd April. His dementia slowly made him fade away, the memories we have will live on...
My lovely wife started to show the signs of dementia around six or seven years ago. We moved to the fens around 7 years ago having spent most of our lives in the...
2 and a half years ago I lost my lovely Grandma Eileen, Grandma suffered with dementia in her final months/year. She meant a great deal to me and life without her is...
When my Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease...
My mother in law had dementia my wife and I cared for her but she unfortunately had a fall and broke her hip in hospital when she passed unfortunately my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.We kept her at home with dad but she had a stroke and passed away 3days later .Sadly my wife was then diagnosed with Alzheimer’s having had so much experience I opted after 43 amazing years married and so much in love to care for her at home with our daughter and sons help.After 7and a half years she sadly passed away and went to heaven at home in my arms knowing she was always loved .whilst this has left me totally lost I feel blessed to have always kept my promise to look after her forever.God bless my sweet girl love you forever till we are together again always yours.

John

I was the partner to a lovely man for 14 years, I was his carer right till the end. I miss him

Madeleine

Twelve months ago we had the diagnosis that my wife had Dementia, I'd known her short term memory was getting worse for maybe 2 years, but in typical Judy fashion she said it was a symptom of getting old. However I pushed for Addenbrookes tests and Phycologist assessment. Then we got the diagnosis.
The Phycologist referred her to the local mental health team and our local Alzheimer's contact Julie Rose.
I cannot speak highly enough of the support and help I've had from Julie, her guidance has helped me with a number of points I would never have known so quickly about without her help.
Judy really enjoys the monthly get together and now attends a Dementia group run by Crowsmill as well, the leader there, Helen is great with the sufferers.
I would also add that the Alzheimer's publications have been a superb help.
So in conclusion of this little story, my donations towards publications, requests and the forget me not badge are just a drop in the ocean for what is needed to beat this horrible condition.
I wouldn't wish Dementia on anyone, it destroys individuals and changes lives, opportunities and plans for families.
Make that donation, you don't know what's around the corner!

Ian

In November 1989 my dad, George, rang me one day and said "Where's Eileen?" I asked if he meant my cousin Eileen and he said "No, my wife Eileen. She went out this morning and she hasn't come back." Shaken, I reminded him that his wife, my mum, had died in March 1970. After a few moments he said "Oh yes...." That was the beginning and, after his diagnosis of vascular dementia, my late wife and I brought him to live with us in the teeth of medical warnings that we would have a hard time. We did, for 2 years until we found him a care home. My dad was a lovely man who had spent his life before the war as an acrobat in circuses. He used to show physical trainers in the Army how to exercise! He could remember being in shows with people like the Crazy Gang and Mickey Rooney, but not what he'd had for breakfast that morning. One Christmas we called a doctor because he was particularly disturbed and, needless to say, he responded normally to the doctor but reverted to earlier behaviour when the doctor, who was not best pleased, had gone.

Roy

My friends wife Norma, also my wife's best friend, who was our bridesmaid in 1960, suffered dementia for many years. My sister Evelyn, suffered the cruel illness and died just before my own wife Gwen began to have trouble vocalising her thoughts, which was due to dementia. We were just short of 65 Years married when she passed away with me by her side. She ended up in a nursing home after a fall. Gwen had suffered breast cancer and she had heart troubles as well as the cancer treatment affecting her blood. The only time I heard her crying was when she could not do the tasks the dementia nurses asked her to do for a diagnosis. She was brave and loving right to the end. Dementia is the most cruel and soul destroying condition. It effects not only the sufferer but everyone around. My heart still aches when I think of her brave struggle. We got good support from Age concern and Mind.

Bob

My beautiful loving mum, June, faded day by day and became a person I didn’t know. She passed in January 2025. I’m slowly coming to terms with the journey we went through. I hope she didn’t think I let her down and knew that I loved her x

Wendy

For my dearest Sister Jilly, not only a sister but always a support and partner in crimes (when we were younger)! She is an amazing person, always ready to help and with a history of actively running a dementia group in her area amongst her many other achievements.
I would also like to remember another sister, Margie, who died this year. She too had alzheimers as did my mother both of whom had to go into homes to help with this devastating disease. Always remembered with love.
Liz

Liz

Margaret Sallis was one of the kindest and happiest women you could ever meet. The moment she entered a room, her smile would light it up and make everyone around her feel warm and welcome. Alzheimer’s slowly took away parts of Margaret’s memory, her confidence, and eventually her voice, but it could never take away her beautiful smile, infectious laughter, or the love, warmth, and happiness she carried within her. I had the privilege of supporting Margaret for five years and saw her almost every day until her final moments. Over those years, I watched the heart breaking reality of Alzheimer’s unfold. There were moments of confusion, frustration, and sadness, where the disease seemed to take more and more from her. Yet somehow, through it all, Margaret still found ways to smile, laugh, and bring comfort to the people around her. One of the most powerful things I witnessed was the love between Margaret and her husband. Even as Alzheimer’s changed so much of their lives, his care, patience, and devotion to her never changed. Their bond was truly unforgettable. Margaret taught me that Alzheimer’s may affect memory and communication, but it does not take away a person’s heart or the impact they leave on others. Even in her most difficult moments, her kindness still shone through. It was an honour to be part of Margaret’s life and care for her during her journey. She will always be remembered for her beautiful smile, infectious laugh, and the strength she showed every single day.

Amy

Our beloved Dad, Father in Law, Grandad and Great Grandad sadly passed away on 23rd April. His dementia slowly made him fade away, the memories we have will live on forever. The donations are from family and friends.

Amy

My lovely wife started to show the signs of dementia around six or seven years ago. We moved to the fens around 7 years ago having spent most of our lives in the southern counties myself as an engineer and Sandra as a very busy school teacher, wife, mother, horse rider, musician and all round fabulous person. She now spends her days in the bed which we have set up in the dining room criticizing everything that I do and is unfortunately doubly incontinent and generally adversarial. this I am finding very hard to come to terms with. We have carers coming to the house 3 times a day to attend to her "needs" which I must admit is very expensive as being people of very "ordinary needs" is rather challenging and difficult. Dementia is a very wicked disease which robs you of the person but leaves them behind. I really do not know where we go to from here but I am still hoping for an 11th hour miracle. Our son has autism which adds to the challenges but he is absolutely brilliant generally and a real credit to his mothers input in earlier years. I really do not know where we will end up from here but if I were a god fearing or religious person I would pray for guidance. Wishing you all the best Martin Cook Gosburton Clough Spalding.






























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Martin

2 and a half years ago I lost my lovely Grandma Eileen, Grandma suffered with dementia in her final months/year. She meant a great deal to me and life without her is just not the same and has been incredibly hard to get through.
I want to help anyone going through this with there relatives, they are not alone.
Having watched Grandma get worse with her symptoms and many times was convinced I was my dad.
Dementia is a cruel disease. Reach out if your struggling with supporting your loved ones. It’s very hard to watch the changes happen so quickly believe me.

Carlos

When my Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease nearly five years ago, the Alzheimer's Society were so brilliant whenever I phoned for advice. I want to celebrate the man whose love of music is still so deeply engrained in him, even in the later stages of dementia. My poetry collection, 'The Opposite of Swedish Death Cleaning', shares a little of the experience of caring for him during this time, including a poem called 'Muscle Memory' about taking him to a Christmas Eve service in Norwich Cathedral and finding that he could still stand and sing the bass line of all the carols, by heart.

Alison

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