8. Adapting to replacement care
When carers and people with dementia access replacement care they may experience difficulties. The carer may also have some worries, for example about how the person is settling in, whether they are being well cared for, or if their routine is being disrupted.
The carer should find out if there are certain things worrying the person. If they know what they're worried about they will be better able to support and reassure them. It may also mean carers can look at ways to address the worry. For example, if the person is concerned about being in an unfamiliar environment, the carer could ensure they take a few favourite items and some photographs with them. Following some of the tips mentioned earlier in this page might help to address some concerns. Experiencing difficulties is not unusual, and it is normal for a carer to be nervous about the experience. However, these feelings shouldn't discourage them from taking a break.
Caring for a person with dementia is a complex and challenging job. There are positive and negative aspects, and each carer will cope with their situation in different ways.
Taking a break is not always an easy decision to make, and carers may feel worried or guilty. They may feel that replacement care will create more stress and that the quality of the care will not be up to their standards. It's important to know that having a break will do both the person with dementia and the carer good in the long term. It may ultimately mean that the carer can carry on caring for longer.
For more information see our section: Carers: looking after yourself.