Your relationships

2. After you’ve been diagnosed: talking about dementia

When you've been told you have dementia, there are probably people you want to turn to first or who it's important to tell.

Talk to these people about your diagnosis when you're ready. Be honest and let them know how you're feeling. For most people, talking is a good way of coping with emotions.

The relationships you have with people work in different ways, so bear this in mind when you talk to them about dementia. You'll find your own way of having this conversation that feels comfortable to you. You might even find that some humour helps make it easier to talk about.

When you were first told you have dementia, you may have felt a range of different emotions. When you tell other people about your diagnosis for the first time, they may feel a range of emotions too, including shock, sadness or fear. Any feelings will be individual to the person - there is no 'right' or 'wrong' way for people to feel about your dementia.

You might find it helpful to talk to a professional about your thoughts and feelings. Ask someone involved in your care, such as a GP or community nurse, to help you find someone who can support you to adjust. You may also want to involve someone who is important to you - such as a partner or friend - in these conversations.